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Thomas, Raymond
May 14, 2013
Raymond Thomas
May 14, 2013
Raymond Wayne Thomas, 76, of Marshall, MO, died Tuesday, May 14, 2013 at Mar-Saline Manor in Marshall. Graveside services with military rites will be held at 2:00 p.m. Thursday, May 16, 2013 at Missouri State Veterans Cemetery in Higginsville with William W. Harlow officiating. Visitation will be from 12:30 to 1:30 p.m. Thursday at Campbell-Lewis Funeral Home in Marshall. Memorials may be made to Saline Animal League and an online guestbook is available at www.campbell-lewis.com Born March 31, 1937 in Marshall, he was the son of the late Harrison T. Thomas and Opal Skinner Thomas. He had lived in Marshall his entire life where he was a 1955 graduate of Marshall High School, and owned and operated Thomas Plumbing for over 40 years. On November 9, 1959, he married Deloris (Dee) Murry, who preceded him in death on November 26, 1981. On November 17, 1986 he married Edna Bockstetter Duncan who survives of the home. He was a United States Marine Corps veteran. In addition to his wife, he is survived by four children: Ramona Durham and husband Ralph, of rural Arrow Rock, MO, Melanie Thomas-Zachariason of Lake Park, MN, Wesley (Sam) Thomas and wife Barbara of Marshall, MO, Gina Ruiz and husband John of Junction City, KS; one step-son, James Duncan and wife Mona of Warrensburg, MO; six grandchildren; and two great-grandchildren. In addition to his parents and first wife, he was preceded in death by one brother, Wendell Thomas.
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Smith, Jim
May 13, 2013
Jim Smith
May 13, 2013
James D. (Jim) Smith, 61, of Sweet Springs, MO, died Monday, May 13, 2013, at Kansas City Hospice House in Kansas City, MO. Funeral services will be held at 10:30 a.m. Friday, May 17, 2013, at Immanuel Lutheran Church in Sweet Springs, with Rev. Dan Wing officiating. Visitation will be held from 6:00 to 7:30 p.m. Thursday at Campbell-Lewis Funeral Home in Sweet Springs. Burial will be in Fairview Cemetery in Sweet Springs. Memorials may be made to Christ Lutheran Church or Kansas City Hospice House. Friends may sign the online register book at www.campbell-lewis.com Born August 18, 1951, in Sweet Springs, he was the son of the late James Edwin Smith and Dorothy Mae Jansen Smith. He had lived in Sweet Springs his entire life and was a 1969 graduate of Sweet Springs High School. He was a truck driver for F.F.E. and had served in the Missouri Army National Guard. He was a member of Christ Lutheran Church near Sweet Springs. Survivors include one son, Dustin Pergeson of Sedalia, MO; four sisters, Marsha Klussman and husband Dennis of Sweet Springs, Susan Golden and husband Jim of Liberty, MO, Vickie Smith of Warrensburg, MO and Darla Smith Elliott of Kansas City, MO; and several nieces, nephews, aunts, uncles and cousins.
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Bakert, Franklin
May 13, 2013
Franklin Bakert
May 13, 2013
Franklin Eugene (Gene) Bakert, 55, of Marshall, MO, died Monday, May 13, 2013, at Riverdell Care Center in Boonville, MO. Funeral services will be held at 1:30 p.m. Thursday, May 16, 2013, at Our Redeemer Lutheran Church in Marshall, with Pastor William Voelker officiating. Visitation will be held noon to 1:30 p.m. Thursday at the church. Burial will be in Ridge Park Cemetery in Marshall. Memorials may be made to Our Redeemer Lutheran Church or The Lutheran Hour in care of Campbell-Lewis Funeral Home in Marshall. Friends may sign the online register book at www.campbell-lewis.com Born August 18, 1957, in Smithville, MO, he was the son of Ernest E. Bakert and Leatrice Kalthoff Bakert who survive of Marshall. He attended parochial Lutheran schools through 6th grade, junior high and high school in Dunedin, FL graduating from Central High School in LaCrosse, WI. He lettered in football and track and played the French horn in the high school band. He played Little League and Babe Ruth baseball for several years. He had worked at Wilson Foods, ConAgra and Wal-Mart. He loved sports, music, reading, especially Bible history, and gardening. He was a member of Our Redeemer Lutheran Church. In addition to his parents, survivors include four children, Jennylee Herrera, Sarah Bakert, Matthew Bakert and Emma Jean Bakert all of Marshall; three grandchildren, Araceli and Erik Herrera and Adriana Lopez; one sister, Denise Ross Grimmious and husband Russ of West Salem, WI; an aunt, Betty Boyd of Marshall; and several nieces and nephews. He was preceded in death by one sister, Pamela Bakert.
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Hughart, Terressa
May 13, 2013
Terressa Hughart
May 13, 2013
Terressa E. Hughart, 46, of Marshall, MO, died Monday, May 13, 2013, at her home. Funeral services will be held at 11:00 a.m. Thursday, May 16, 2013 at Campbell-Lewis Chapel with Rev. Pete Swarigam officiating. Burial will be in Ridge Park Cemetery. Visitation will be one hour prior to the service at the funeral home. Memorials may be made to family choice and an online guestbook is available at www.campbell-lewis.com Born September 5, 1966 in Pittsfield, IL, she was the daughter of Edward J. Smith and Joyce Cheek Smith, who survive of the home. She had lived in Marshall since 1985, and had worked at Con-Agra. Due to an accident, she was permanently disabled and unable to attend church on a regular basis. Though she wasn’t able to attend church, she still remained strong in the Lord because of her mother, father, and son. In addition to her parents, she is survived by three sons, Zachary James Hughart, Justin LuEdward Hughart, and Laurence Cody Hughart, all of Marshall; one brother, James L. Tittsworth of Key West, FL; five sisters, Deana M. Tittsworth of Marshall, Nicole E. Dyke of Lawrence, KS, Elizabeth B. Thomas of Sweet Springs, Deirdre M. Jelk of Omaha, NE, and Hope R. Morton of Charleston, MO; as well as aunts, uncles, nieces, nephews, and cousins.
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Brandt, Wilfred (Wayne)
May 11, 2013
Wilfred (Wayne) Brandt
May 11, 2013
Wilfred (Wayne) Brandt, 76, of Sweet Springs, MO, died Saturday, May 11, 2013 at I-70 Community Hospital in Sweet Springs. Funeral services will be held at 10:00 a.m. Wednesday, May 15, 2013 at Campbell-Lewis Chapel in Sweet Springs with Pastor Bryan Andrews officiating. Burial with military rites will be in Mt. Zion Cemetery near Dunksburg. Visitation will be from 6 to 7:30 p.m. Tuesday at the funeral home. Memorials may be made to the F.L.A.S.H. program of First Baptist Church or the Sweet Springs Food Pantry. An online guestbook is available at www.campbell-lewis.com Born August 13, 1936 in Knob Noster, MO, he was the son of the late Carl Wilfred Brandt and Eva Marie Webster Brandt. He was a 1954 graduate of Knob Noster High School and a veteran of the U.S. Army. On November 19, 1976 he married Ruby Younce, who survives of the home. He was employed at Strobel Seeds of rural Concordia for 25 years and was a Lutheran. In addition to his wife, he is survived by his children: Stacy Andrews and husband Bryan of Crystal City, Martha Dohrman and husband Ben of rural Marshall, Dusty Brandt of Grain Valley, and Erma Brandt of Festus; five grandchildren; three sisters, Erma Lee Tyler of Columbia, Linda Sue Fricke of Emma, and Marlene Brandt of Waverly; two brothers, David Brandt of rural Warrensburg, and Darrel Brandt of Concordia; as well as many nieces and nephews. In addition to his parents, he was preceded in death by one brother, Dean Brandt.
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Embrey, Viola
May 10, 2013
Viola Embrey
May 10, 2013
Viola L. Embrey, 93, of Marshall, MO, died Friday, May 10, 2013, at Mar-Saline Manor in Marshall. Private graveside services will be held in Ridge Park Cemetery in Marshall. In lieu of flowers memorials may be made to Shiloh Cemetery Association in care of Campbell-Lewis Funeral Home in Marshall. Friends may sign the online register book at www.campbell-lewis.com Born May 8, 1920, in Saline County, MO, she was the daughter of the late John W. Whitlock, Sr. and May Hoyes Whitlock. On November 12, 1939, she married James Daniel Embrey who preceded her in death in August of 1993. She lived in the Hardeman community until 1955 when she moved to Independence, MO and had lived in Marshall since 2007. She was a homemaker and early in life she was a pattern designer at Princess Patterns in Independence. She was active in Hardeman School District PTA and Hardeman Extension Club. She was a member of First Christian Church in Independence and its Faithful Followers Sunday school class. Survivors include one daughter, V. Elaine Osborn and husband Kenneth of the Hardeman community; twin grandsons, James T. Landolt and Jerry D. Landolt; one great-granddaughter, Shelby Lyn Landolt; a twin sister, Violet O. Porter of Marshall; one sister, Joan Kitchen of Houston, TX; one brother, Lee Whitlock of Lincoln, California; and several nieces and nephews. In addition to her parents and husband, she was preceded in death by three brothers, John Whitlock, Jr., Russell Whitlock and Toby Whitlock; and two sisters, Berta Mae Shannon and Ruth Whitlock.
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Graham, Pauline
May 7, 2013
Pauline Graham
May 7, 2013
M. Pauline Graham, 83, of Neosho, MO, formerly of Marshall, MO, died Tuesday, May 7, 2013, at her home. Graveside services will be held at 11:30 a.m. Monday, May 13, 2013, at Slater City Cemetery in Slater, MO, with Dr. Mike Parris officiating. Visitation will be held from 10 to 11:00 a.m. Monday at Campbell-Lewis Funeral Home in Marshall. Memorials may be made to American Cancer Society. Friends may sign the online register book at www.campbell-lewis.com Born June 27, 1929, in Vernon, AL, she was the daughter of the late Carl Wheeler and Lizzie Mae Rambo Wheeler. On August 13, 1955, she married Walter W. Graham who preceded her in death on April 30, 2006. She had lived in Neosho since 2012 moving from Marshall where she had lived since 1988. She was a homemaker, volunteered at Fitzgibbon Hospital Gift Shop and was a member of First Baptist Church. Survivors include one stepdaughter, Beverly Butler of Lake of the Ozarks, MO; one stepson, Robert Graham of Independence, MO; one son-in-law, Joel Shepard of Greenfield, MO; eight grandchildren; several great-grandchildren and great-great-grandchildren; one sister, Essie Burnham of Brewton, AL; and several nieces and nephews. In addition to her parents and husband, she was preceded in death by one daughter, Patricia Shepard; one stepson, Ronnie Graham; one stepdaughter, Donna Ford; one brother, Chesley Wheeler; and one sister, WillaDean Bales.
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Hunter, Ryler
May 5, 2013
Ryler Hunter
May 5, 2013
Ryler Allen Hunter, 10 day old son of Haley Nicole Hunter of rural Sweet Springs, died Sunday, May 5, 2013 at Children’s Mercy Hospital in Kansas City. Funeral services will be held at 2:00 p.m. Monday, May 13, 2013 at Campbell-Lewis Chapel in Sweet Springs with William W. Harlow officiating; visitation will be from 1:00 to 2:00 p.m. Monday at the funeral home. Burial will be in Sunset Gardens Cemetery in Marshall. Memorials may be made to Children’s Mercy Hospital or Midwest Transplant Network. An online guestbook is available at www.campbell-lewis.com Ryler was born April 25, 2013 at Western Missouri Medical Center in Warrensburg and will always live on, as he was an organ donor. In addition to his mother, he is survived by his maternal grandparents: Greg Allen Hunter and Teresa Benson of Sweet Springs, and Julie Schmidt Hunter of Sweet Springs; maternal great-grandparents, Danny and Carolyn Schmidt of Sweet Springs; an aunt, Ashtin Hunter of Sweet Springs; an uncle, Cody Schmidt of Sedalia; as well as great-aunts, great-uncles, cousins, and other family members. He was preceded in death by his maternal great-grandparents, Jim and Viola Hunter.
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Hoffmann, Margie
May 3, 2013
Margie Hoffmann
May 3, 2013
Margie D. Hoffmann, 93, of Sweet Springs, MO, died Friday, May 3, 2013, at The Lutheran Nursing Home in Concordia, MO. Funeral services will be held at 3:00 p.m. Monday, May 6, 2013, at Wesley United Methodist Church in Sweet Springs, with Rev. James R. West officiating. Visitation will be held from 2:00 to 3:00 p.m. Monday at the church. Burial will be in Fairview Cemetery in Sweet Springs. Memorials may be made to Wesley United Methodist Church in Sweet Springs. Friends may sign the online register book at www.campbell-lewis.com Born September 23, 1919, near Sweet Springs, she was the daughter of the late Jess Linder and Elsie (Nina) Weddle Linder. On May 23, 1941, in Sweet Springs, she married Paul E. Hoffmann who preceded her in death on January 3, 1994. She attended Blackwater Chapel and later became a member of Wesley United Methodist Church. She was also a member of The Sweet Springs Amiga Club where she made lifelong friends. She was a homemaker, an avid shopper and always enjoyed the gathering of family and friends. Survivors include one son, Paul Linder Hoffmann and wife Judy of Sweet Springs; two grandsons, Michael Hoffmann of Warrensburg, MO and Mark Hoffmann and wife Jacque of Princeton, IL; four great-grandchildren, Drew and Nic Hoffmann of Marshall, and Olivia and Elijah Hoffmann of Warrensburg; two step-grandchildren, Scott Hemme and Julia Smith of Concordia; four step-great-grandchildren; and one nephew, Bill Klosterman and wife Doris and family of Fulton, MO. In addition to her parents and husband, she was preceded in death by one sister, Jessie Mae Klosterman.
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Dallas, Charles
May 2, 2013
Charles Dallas
May 2, 2013
Charles F. Dallas, 88, of Marshall, MO, died Thursday, May 2, 2013, at his home. Funeral services will be held at 11:00 a.m. Monday, May 6, 2013, at Campbell-Lewis Chapel in Marshall, with Rev. Kathleen Schmidtke and William W. Harlow officiating. Visitation will be held from 10:00 to 11:00 a.m. Monday at the funeral home. Graveside service will be 3:00 p.m. Monday at Hillcrest Cemetery in Macon, MO. Memorials may be made to First United Methodist Church or Fitzgibbon-Mary Montgomery Hospice. Friends may sign the online register book at www.campbell-lewis.com Born February 7, 1925, in Callao, MO, he was the son of the late Leonard Dallas and Lena Short Dallas. On August 28, 1946, he married Bonnie Howard who survives of the home. In the 1940’s he was employed by North American Bomber Plant in Kansas City, KS, where they manufactured B-25 bombers. He retired from Safeway Grocery in 1986, working there since 1947, and served many years as store manager. He had lived in Marshall since 1975, moving from Lawrence, KS, living in the Kansas City area for many years. He was a member of First United Methodist Church in Marshall, Lions Club in Lawrence and Marshall and the B-25 Bomber Manufacturing Group. In addition to his wife, Bonnie, survivors include two daughters, Linda Roberts and husband Mark of Ozawkie, KS and Carol Eddington and husband Mike of Overland Park, KS; four grandchildren, Jeff Roberts and friend Rick Carlsen, Matthew Roberts, Troy Roberts and wife Kirsten, Alissa Eddington and fiancé Patrick Suckiel; four great-grandchildren, Ella and Ben Roberts, Eli Roberts and Quentin Guerra; one brother, Don Dallas and wife Vicky of Orrick, MO; one sister, Sharon Lopez and husband Eddie of Sierra Vista, AZ; and several nieces and nephews. In addition to his parents, he was preceded in death by one brother, Kenneth Dallas; and one sister, Shirley Jones.
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Tinoco, Leonor
May 1, 2013
Leonor Tinoco
May 1, 2013
Leonor Tinoco, 49, of Waverly, MO, died Wednesday, May 1, 2013 at Lafayette Regional Health Center in Lexington. Funeral services will be held at 10:30 a.m. Tuesday, May 7, 2013 at Victory Christian Fellowship in Waverly with Rev. Roger Nichols officiating. Burial will be in Waverly Cemetery. Visitation will be from 5-8:00 p.m. Monday at Campbell-Lewis Funeral Home in Marshall. Memorials are suggested to family choice and an online guestbook is available at www.campbell-lewis.com Born November 28, 1963 in Morelia, Michoacan, Mexico, she was the daughter of Felix Martinez, who survives of Mexico and the late Marina Gordillo Martinez. She was married in 1981 to Moises Tinoco who survives of the home. Leonor had lived in Waverly since 1980, where she worked for Peters Orchards for several years, and was currently employed at Cargill Meat Solutions in Marshall, where she has been employed for over 15 years. In addition to her father and husband, she is survived by two sons, Daniel Tinoco of Marshall and Andy Tinoco of the home; one grandson, Cristian Daniel Tinoco; eight siblings: Luis Martinez and Miguel Martinez of Haines City, FL, Isabel Martinez, Maria-Juana Martinez and Enrique Martinez, all of Milan, MO, Rosa Martinez, Maria Martinez, and Felix Martinez, Jr., all of the country of Mexico; as well as many nieces and nephews. She was preceded in death by her mother; two sons, Joel Tinoco and Ruben Tinoco.
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Morgan, Rhea
May 1, 2013
Rhea Morgan
May 1, 2013
Rhea W. Morgan, 95, of Marshall, MO, died Wednesday, May 1, 2013, at Fitzgibbon Hospital in Marshall. Funeral services will be held at 1:30 p.m. Saturday, May 4, 2013, at Campbell-Lewis Chapel in Marshall with Rev. Keith Jackson and William W. Harlow officiating. Visitation will be held from 12 noon to 1:30 p.m. Saturday at the funeral home. Burial will be in Sunset Gardens Cemetery in Marshall. Memorials may be made to The Salvation Army or Paralyzed Veterans. Friends may sign the online register book at www.campbell-lewis.com Born January 5, 1918, in Berryville, AR, she was the daughter of the late William T. Hartley and Lula McFall Hartley On October 15, 1940, she married Herbert A. Morgan who preceded her in death on March 25, 1976. She had lived in Marshall most of her life and attended Marshall Church of the Nazarene. She retired as the switchboard supervisor at Marshall Habilitation Center after 35 years of service. Survivors include her children, Terry Lee Morgan and wife Nona of Pearland, TX, Judy D. Leimkuehler and husband Don of rural Marshall, Tony Morgan and wife Pat, Lois McFarland and husband Mark, and Reba S. Ussery and husband Jim all of Marshall; 16 grandchildren; 19 great-grandchildren; five great-great-grandchildren; three sisters, Mary Moore, Betty Smith and June Sargent all of Marshall; one brother, Fred Hartley of Marshall; and numerous nieces and nephews. In addition to her parents and husband, she was preceded in death by four sisters, Ruby Lassa, Ruth Jacobs, Tommie Weaver and Georgie Hall; and one brother, William T. (Bill) Hartley.
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Lamkin, Mary Beth
April 29, 2013
Mary Beth Lamkin
April 29, 2013
Mary Beth Lamkin, 91, of Marshall, Mo., died Monday, April 29, 2013, at Fitzgibbon Hospital in Marshall. She was born in Marshall on January 26, 1922, the daughter of John Clayton Lamkin, Jr. and Ellis Coleman Lamkin. Mary Beth was a 1939 graduate of Marshall High School. She attended Central College in Fayette, Mo. for one year and graduated from Missouri Valley College in 1943. She then taught in Missouri high schools in Meadville, Miami, Carrollton, Moberly, and Malta Bend. After retiring from teaching, she spent a number of years caring for her aging father in his house in Marshall. Mary Beth was a talented musician who played both the piano and organ, and over the years played regularly at services for several different churches in Marshall. She was an avid bridge player and enjoyed playing with a number of groups. She was a member of the United Daughters of the Confederacy, and several other organizations in Marshall. Mary Beth was very much interested in history, particularly of her family, of Marshall, and of Saline County, and was an avid collector of historical documents. She was a lifelong member of the Methodist Church and served as historian for the First United Methodist Church for many years. She wrote a history of the church which was, unfortunately, destroyed in a house fire. She was preceded in death by her parents and by an older brother, John Clayton Lamkin, III. Survivors include a brother, William Meredith Lamkin and his wife, Aurelie of Bella Vista, Ark.; a sister-in-law, Virginia T. Lamkin of Alpharetta, Ga.; a niece, Lynn Sullivan and her husband, Thomas, of Albany, Mo., and their children, Sharon, Kyle, and Clayton; a niece, Jayne Appling and her husband, Robert, and their children, Kathryn, and Samuel of Alpharetta, Ga.; and a cousin, John T. Lamkin of Cape Girardeau, Mo. Funeral services will be held at 2:00 p.m. Thursday, May 2, 2013, at First United Methodist Church in Marshall, with Rev. Kathleen Schmidtke officiating. Visitation will be held from 1:00 to 2:00 p.m. Thursday at the church. Burial will be in Ridge Park Cemetery in Marshall. Memorials may be made to First United Methodist Church in care of Campbell-Lewis Funeral Home in Marshall. Friends may sign the online register book at www.campbell-lewis.com
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Hering, Fawnette
April 28, 2013
Fawnette Hering
April 28, 2013
Fawnette Hering, 92, of Marshall, MO, died Sunday, April 28, 2013, at Fitzgibbon Hospital in Marshall. Memorial services will be held at 11:00 a.m. Monday, June 10, 2013 at Campbell-Lewis Chapel in Marshall. Visitation will be held one hour prior to the service. Inurnment will be in Blackburn Cemetery in Blackburn, MO. Memorials may be made to the Saline Animal League. Friends may sign the online register book at www.campbell-lewis.com Born April 2, 1921, in Saline County, MO, she was the daughter of the late Frank Perkins and Anna Lee Renison Perkins. She was a graduate of Fulton High School and Jefferson City Business School. On April 28, 1943, she married Elmo Rollins (Bill) Hering who preceded her in death on May 11, 1996. She had lived in Marshall most of her life and was a retired secretary having worked for 50 years. She was a member of First Presbyterian Church and Patsy Gregg Chapter DAR. Survivors include two sisters, Dorothy Schmid of Fulton, MO and Ann Adams of Emma, MO; one brother, Robert Perkins of Oracle, AZ; and numerous nieces and nephews. In addition to her parents and husband, she was preceded in death by one daughter, Suzanne Hering; one brother, Charles Perkins; and one sister, Beatrice Perkins.
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Dawley, Linda
April 27, 2013
Linda Dawley
April 27, 2013
Linda Cochran Dawley, 64, of Marshall, MO, died Saturday, April 27, 2013, at The Living Center in Marshall. Funeral services will be held at 11:00 a.m. Thursday, May 2, 2013, at Campbell-Lewis Chapel in Marshall, with Rev. Pete Swaringam officiating. Visitation will be held from 10:00 to 11:00 a.m. Thursday at the funeral home. Graveside services will be at 3:00 p.m. Thursday in Bear Creek Cemetery near Osceola, MO. Memorials may be made to The Lighthouse Shelter in Marshall. Friends may sign the online register book at www.campbell-lewis.com Born February 6, 1949, in Raytown, MO, she was the daughter of the late Sherman T. Whitmore and Lucille Brown Whitmore. She married Donald Cochran who preceded her in death. On November 12, 2005, she married Freddy D. Dawley who survives of the home. She had lived in Marshall since 2001, moving from Bogard, MO, previously living in Gerster, MO. She attended Marshall United Pentecostal Church, was a volunteer for several years at The Lighthouse Shelter, and also worked at the Marshall Habilitation Center. In addition to her husband, she is survived by one daughter, Tracy Jones and husband Robbie of Osceola; two stepdaughters, Teresa R. Dawley and Laura Dawley Comer both of Rock Hill, SC; four grandchildren, Tabetha and Rob Jones, Jeffrey Cochran and Ashley Clark; two great-grandchildren; one brother, Sherman Eugene Whitmore of Marshall; and several nieces and nephews. In addition to her parents, she was preceded in death by one daughter, Donna Sue Clark.
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Planning a Funeral
Most of us are not prepared to plan and carry out a funeral ceremony for someone we love. And so much of the information available on this critically important subject fails to focus on what is most important: having a personalized, meaningful funeral that helps families and friends begin the healing process of mourning after the death of someone we love.
This section includes information that will help provide insights necessary to help you and your family create a meaningful funeral experience that both honors the life of your loved one and starts you on the path to healing from your loss. Some of the content on these pages is adapted from a website called www.MeaningfulFunerals.com and the teachings of Dr. Alan Wolfelt, a noted grief expert.
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Meaningful Funerals
"You can have the experience and miss the meaning."
- T.S. Elliott
Meaningful Funerals
Meaningful funeral ceremonies make a significant difference in how families channel their grief toward health and healing. During the funeral, the community comes together and responds to the reality that someone has died, and also to the reality that those remaining will need support, compassion, love, hope, and understanding. The funeral encourages you to think about the person who has died and to explore the meaning of their life and the ways in which they touched the lives of others.
The remembering, reflecting and choices that take place in the planning and conducting of the funeral service are often an important part of the process of grief and mourning. And ultimately, this process of contemplation and discovery creates a memorable and moving funeral experience for all who attend.
Why Have a Funeral?
When we experience the death of someone we love, a funeral service fills several important needs. First, it provides for the dignified and respectful care of the person and special tribute to their life. Equally important, the funeral service helps survivors face the reality of death, which is the first big step toward taking grief from the inside and allowing us to express it on the outside through mourning. Together, close friends and relatives can lend support and consolation when they're needed most.
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What Makes a Funeral Meaningful?
No matter what kind of funeral ceremony you are planning, it helps to understand the components of a meaningful funeral. Meaningful funerals are made up of different parts that, when combined together, make for an incredibly emotional experience for you, your family and friends.
Meaningful Choices
Helping You and Your Family Create a Meaningful FuneralThis is a naturally difficult time, compounded by the fact that you are faced with many decisions that must be made as you begin to plan the funeral. You may feel overwhelmed by these decisions. When you are able to make informed choices, you are empowered with the important information needed to plan a meaningful funeral.
This is not the time to deny your need to mourn and embrace painful feelings of grief in the coming days. You may feel deep sadness as you plan this funeral and begin to acknowledge the reality that someone who you love has died. But when all is said and done, you will feel deep satisfaction that you helped plan a meaningful tribute or ceremony for someone who meant so much to your own life, and you will be on the path to a healthy grieving process.
Making Informed Funeral Choices
After selecting a funeral home, you and your family will choose the type of funeral service to hold, what will happen to the body and where it will be laid to rest. How a body will be cared for after death is an important decision. Whether you choose burial or cremation, you can use elements of ceremony to honor the life of your loved one and to allow you and your family to say goodbye in a meaningful way.
Key Choices
Key Choices Needed to be Made for a Meaningful Funeral As you begin to think about the funeral and the many options you have, you may be faced with the conflict of honoring the wishes of the person who died as well as your own wishes as survivors. While it is natural to want to meet the requests of the person who died, do consider changes that will be helpful to you, your family and friends. Begin a Family ConversationIt is often helpful to have a family conversation before going to see a funeral director. This can be a time for expressing your grief together as well as a time for some initial decision-making. Try as best you can to include everyone in the discussion. No one should feel left out.
The Arrangement ConferenceYou may have already scheduled a time to meet with your funeral director to help you plan the funeral. This meeting is called the “arrangement conference.” During the arrangement conference, the funeral director will explain all of the choices available to you and your family, help you make decisions to create your unique funeral, and gather important information about the person who died to complete necessary documents. Above all else, the funeral director will assist you in both arranging for and carrying out a meaningful funeral.
What Kind of Funeral Service Will You Have?You can choose from a variety of funeral service types and formats. Some people think funerals must conform to traditional ways, but there is no one right way to have a funeral. Just as grief has many dimensions and is experienced in different ways by different people, funerals are also unique. A funeral should simply be fitting for the person who died and the family and friends who survive them. This is an opportunity to be creative and to share an honest expression of your most heartfelt values. There are no rigid rules that need to be followed, but there are guidelines that can help you if you are unsure how you might proceed.
Burial Considerations
Planning a meaningful funeral for a loved one is a ritual that almost all of us will encounter at some point in our lives. As you consider the various aspects of a funeral where burial is the final disposition, there are several elements that you can and will need to select in order to create a touching tribute for your loved one. These things will also provide comfort to those who are living as you pay your final respects.
Service and Ceremony
Service and CeremonyChoosing Burial
Planning a meaningful funeral for a loved one is a ritual that almost all of us will encounter at some point in our lives. As you consider the various aspects of a funeral where burial is the final disposition, there are several elements that you can and will need to select in order to create a touching tribute for your loved one. These things will also provide comfort to those who are living as you pay your final respects.
The Burial Committal ServiceWhen burial is chosen, the graveside ceremony is the final opportunity to say goodbye. Accompanying a body to its final resting place and saying a few last words brings a necessary feeling of closure to the funeral process. Families are often deeply touched by this ceremony, and its memory resonates for years. A meaningful committal service not only helps us acknowledge the reality and finality of the death, it also symbolizes the separation that the death has created. It is an essential ingredient of a meaningful funeral experience.
Direct BurialA direct burial is when there is no funeral service, but instead simply final disposition of the body by the funeral home.
A word from Dr. Alan Wolfelt
If you are considering direct burial, I plead with you to reconsider. Honoring the life and death of the person who died with some sort of ceremony - no matter how brief, how small or how informal - will help your family acknowledge the reality of the death and begin to heal. When no ceremony is held, it is as if the life and death of the person who died had no significance to anyone. Also keep in mind that you may still hold a committal service at the gravesite should you choose direct burial.
Think carefully about the many options available to you and your family. Slow down and plan. It is through planning that a meaningful funeral experience is created. And do remember that funeral directors, clergy, celebrants and close friends who have done these things before can all be valuable resources to you. You are not alone!
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Burial Products and PersonalizationCaskets
Casket Choices
The casket typically becomes the visual and emotional focal point of the funeral service, and just as important, serves as the final resting place for your loved one. The casket you choose can be more than just a burial vessel - it can become a touching reminder of all that made your loved one special. When selecting a casket, the first decision is typically the casket material - wood or metal.
The casket material chosen is often selected because it reflects the personality of your loved one. Wood is traditionally valued for its warmth and natural beauty, while metal is treasured for its strength, durability and elegance. Various factors impact the value of the finished product, including the species of wood or type of metal. Additional considerations include the design of the casket such as shape, color, interior fabric and hardware. Each of these can make a statement about the beloved individual, as can the features that allow you to create personal tributes to your loved one. These choices affect the overall appearance of the casket, as well as its value.
Metal Caskets
Metal CasketsMetal caskets, including those made from bronze, copper, stainless steel and steel, are known for their unique finishes. Bronze and copper are among the most durable and beautiful of metals; both are naturally non-rusting. Stainless and carbon steel caskets come in a variety of grades, gauges, styles and finishes. Many metal caskets contain features that help resist the entrance of outside elements.
Bronze & Copper CasketsBronze and Copper caskets combine quality construction and beautiful finishes. Many families choose these materials because they are superior to all other casket materials in strength, durability and naturally non-rusting qualities. Tools, ornaments and other artifacts from these materials can be seen in museums dating back as far as 5,000 years. A wide variety of styles, colors and features in bronze and copper are available, allowing you to select a casket that is suited to individual preferences.
Stainless SteelStainless steel is known for its quality and longevity, making it a valued material for casket construction. It is available in different grades, which are determined by the amount of chromium and nickel content — the higher the content, the higher the quality and strength of the steel and its corrosion-resistant qualities.
Carbon SteelCarbon steel caskets are available in multiple grades, for example (from thickest to thinnest): 16 gauge, 18 gauge and 20 gauge. While not as durable or resistant to corrosion as stainless steel, copper or bronze, a wide selection of colors, finishes and personalization features make these caskets an attractive choice.
Wood Caskets
Wood CasketsHardwood caskets include a variety of species: mahogany, walnut, cherry, sycamore, maple, oak, pecan, select hardwood and pine. Families who choose these caskets appreciate the qualities of natural wood. The warmth, beauty and personality it brings to fine furniture is also well suited for the construction of caskets. Some wood caskets are manufactured from solid specie wood, and others are constructed with high-quality veneers.
MahoganyMahogany is used extensively for high-grade furniture and cabinetry. It has a well-earned reputation because of its attractive grain pattern and beautiful natural luster.
WalnutConsidered a wood of beauty, walnut boasts a striking grain color and pattern. Walnut is warm and inviting, dignified and elegant, and engenders a pride of ownership. Having a natural lustrous patina, walnut is also known for its strength and durability.
CherryCherry is one of the most popular hardwoods. Because of its strength and stability, cherry is often used for burial caskets, paneling and gun stocks. Its rich, warm look and creamy, reddish color make it attractive.
MapleMaple is valued for its strength, wear resistance and beauty, making it a popular choice for flooring, especially for heavily trafficked areas such as a ballroom. But it's also a popular material used in making caskets. Maple is evenly textured with a natural luster. While the grain is usually straight, it can also be wavy or curly.
PecanPrized for the delicious pecan nut, pecan trees also produce a strong and heavy hardwood. Pecan is light in color and is often found in the construction of beautiful furniture and architectural paneling.
OakOak is a popular furniture and flooring favorite. This durable wood is used for doors, paneling, home furnishings and caskets. Oak has a prominent grain pattern that can be either tight or coarse, depending on the species.
PinePine has been popular since colonial times. There are nearly 100 species of pine, ranging in color from pale yellow to light brown. Though not technically classified as a “hardwood,” it is considered to be a durable wood, usually straight grained with an even texture.
HardwoodHardwood is a cost effective, yet attractive, solid wood product made from select wood species including poplar and cottonwood.
VeneerVeneering has been a standard in the fine furniture industry for more than 50 years. Veneered wood caskets incorporate quality craftsmanship with premium wood veneers and engineered wood composites that create a look and finish of warmth and beauty that many families are drawn to with solid wood caskets.
Personalize with Burial Casket Features
Specially designed features are available with many caskets today, and serve as another visual way to create an impactful and emotional expression during the service. There are numerous features and flexible ways to personalize a casket that reflect the personality and interests of your loved one. One such feature incorporates artistic designs that can pay tribute to an individual's life of service, passions and interests. These designs can be attached to the corners of many different types of caskets. Another unique feature available on select caskets is a special drawer where you can display cherished mementos during the service and place private farewell messages that can then remain in the casket with your loved one at their final resting place.
Several unique panel designs for the lid of the casket are also available, and each one offers its own dignified approach to serve as a special place and focal point for families to recall a life story and highlight the personal facets that made their loved one special. There are select caskets with panels that allow you to display artistically crafted medallions that can serve as a visual eulogy, allowing you to highlight the most meaningful roles and relationships of your loved one's life.
Some caskets include a pleated panel that enables you to display cherished photos and personal mementos near your loved one. Insertable panels are also available that include embroidered designs with tributes focused on relationships, service, passions and interests. In some cases, you can design or customize your own embroidered panel if standard offerings do not deliver that final personal touch. Some of the same embroidery designs can also be applied to other casket interiors, such as the casket overthrow or pillow.
Burial Casket Features that Encourage RemembranceMany of the designs and features used with the casket can also serve as personal memorial keepsakes, such as the medallions or corner designs. In order to allow healing to begin, it's important to accept that the everyday relationship with the loved one has moved from physical reality to memory. Many people find it helpful to have tangible reminders of their loved one, including items and symbols that relate to the final celebration of life. Keepsakes of various types, such as medallions, can also be engraved with the loved one's name and dates, or special designs that create even more meaningful and touching remembrances for current and future generations.
Ask your funeral director for more information on what is available to help personalize and encourage remembrance during the funeral of your loved one. They can guide you through the selection process and help you make informed choices.
Remembrance JewelryDesigned to hold a lock of hair, flower petals, earth from the gravesite or a small portion of cremated remains, keepsake jewelry is a unique way to hold a loved one close with a fashionable and lasting remembrance.
Burial VaultsBurial Vault Choices
Burial vaults are lined units that enclose the casket when it is placed at the gravesite and are designed to prevent the weight of soil and heavy equipment from damaging the casket. There are no laws that require the use of outer containers, but cemeteries often require their use, as it reduces the chance that soil over the grave will settle and helps with general gravesite maintenance and appearance.
Burial vaults are available in a variety of materials including metal, concrete and composite materials.
Unlined Outer Burial ContainerUnlined outer burial containers, or grave liners, are usually constructed of wood or concrete and may improve the appearance of the grave. These products provide a barrier that keeps soil and debris away from the casket during the closing of the grave. Some grave liners also provide structural protection from the weight of soil and heavy equipment. As these products are unlined, they provide no protection to the casket from soil and/or water making their way past the outer container unit.
Metal VaultMetal vaults are available in a variety of materials, including bronze, copper, stainless steel, galvanized and aluminum. These two-piece enclosures offer protection from the weight of soil and cemetery equipment, as well as keep the elements away from the casket. Some metal vaults feature beautiful ornamental details and can be personalized to honor your loved one.
Concrete VaultConcrete vaults are outer closures that provide structural protection from the weight of soil and heavy equipment and offer additional protection from soil reaching the casket. Concrete vaults are available in many styles including undecorated concrete finishes, metal wrapped tops and interiors, and simulated wood grain or natural stone finishes. Concrete vaults can typically weigh more than 2,000 pounds and can require additional costs for transport and placement.
Polymer VaultBurial vaults constructed of non-porous polyethylene and polypropylene material provide the benefits of being lightweight, impact-resistant and water-resistant. Polymer vaults can be constructed in multiple layers for added strength and durability. Their ease of handling also reduces cemetery labor costs and the need for heavy equipment during transportation and gravesite placement. Vault styles are available that can be personalized to help honor your loved one.
The Living Memorial ProgramBatesville's Living Memorial® Program is a unique and special way to honor the memory of a loved one. When you select a Batesville® burial product or an Options® cremation product, arrangements are made for a tree seedling to be planted as a living tribute - at no additional cost to you.
Seedlings are planted in national forests in cooperation with the U.S. Forest Service, The Canadian Forestry Association, The Grand River Conservation Foundation, and other international organizations to re-establish woodlands destroyed by forest fires, blight and other natural disasters. You will receive a special letter that verifies a tree has been planted where the need is greatest.
Cemetery Space, Monuments and Grave Markers
Cemetery Space, Monuments and Grave MarkersCemetery Space
Perhaps your family already owns a cemetery plot where the person who has died will be buried. If not, maybe you've noticed a nice local cemetery. Your funeral director will know which cemeteries are nearby and can help you purchase cemetery plots appropriate for your needs.
Traditionally, families have chosen to bury their loved ones in a cemetery. Entombment, which is the placement of the casketed body in an above-ground structure called a mausoleum, also takes place at a cemetery. When a casket is entombed, it is placed in an enclosure (called a crypt), and the front is usually sealed and faced with either marble or granite.
Many families choose burial or entombment at a nearby cemetery because it allows them to visit the gravesite as often as they like. This helps them continue to feel close to the person who died, while still acknowledging the death.
Because so many aspects should be considered when purchasing a cemetery plot, you may want to consider discussing the options in advance. Questions you may want to consider include:
- Does the plot meet my religious requirements?
- Are there any restrictions I need to consider based on the type of monument or burial vault?
- Does the plot include perpetual care and maintenance?
- Are plots available in the same location to provide for burial of the entire family?
Also called headstones, grave markers are used in cemeteries to memorialize and identify the gravesite of the person who has died. You may want to personalize the grave marker by including a poem, a drawing or a short phrase that defines the person who died.
Monuments and grave markers are available in a variety of materials, including natural stone, concrete and bronze. Styles can range from very simple to ornate, as single markers or companion monuments.
Sharing Memories
Sharing MemeoriesMemorial Websites
When someone we love dies, we often feel the need to share their story and the story of our loss with family, friends and our extended communities. A recent trend has been to memorialize loved ones by creating a website that honors their memory and mourns the loss.
The website can be created to house online video tributes and even guestbook memories collected at the funeral from family and friends. Some funeral homes offer this as a service, or you may be technologically savvy enough to build your own. Your imagination is your only limit to sharing memories and honoring your loved one.
Keepsake BooksFriends and relatives often share memories, stories, photos and condolences in guest books, both at the funeral and on the funeral home's website. At the funeral, invite people to write down a memory of the person who died. Ask children if they would like to write a letter or draw a picture for the person. Their “goodbyes” can then be saved for the keepsake book or even placed in the casket alongside the body. Many funeral homes offer keepsake book publishing services that collect and document these important memories.
Video TributesA video tribute is a unique way to personalize a memorial service - giving you and your family the opportunity to pause and reflect on the life of the person you knew and love. These touching montages can consist of music, photos, memorabilia, or newspaper articles that take viewers through the life of the person who has died.
Your video tribute can be played during the funeral service, during a visitation, or at any other time you and your funeral service professional decide upon. Many funeral homes can also post your video tribute to their website so that others can view it at any time. Tributes can also be made into DVDs or saved electronically for your family to keep. Your funeral home may offer this service or can recommend a local vendor who specializes in this area.
Cremation Considerations
When choosing cremation, it is important not only to capture the memories and celebrate the spirit of your loved one, but also to provide healing through gathering together, paying tribute and celebrating a life well lived.
Keep in mind that cremation does not limit your ability to spend time with the body of your loved one or hold a meaningful ceremony. You may have a visitation period and a funeral service prior to the cremation. Or your family may spend time privately with the body before cremation, followed by a public ceremony a day or two later with the urn present. You may want to consider keeping your loved one's body present for the funeral ceremony as it often encourages more expressions of grief and authentic mourning.
What Happens During Cremation
Cremation is another form of disposition or handling a body after death. However, many people don't know what happens during cremation.
Cremation takes place in a carefully maintained facility known as a crematory or crematorium. The funeral home may or may not have its own crematory on site, but your funeral director can take care of all arrangements either way.
Within the crematory is a special cremation chamber. The body is placed in a cremation container or casket and positioned inside the cremation chamber. Once the container or casket is in the cremation chamber, the door is tightly sealed. The operator then turns on gas jets, which create intense heat that reduces the body to bone fragments. This process takes approximately 2-3 hours.
After the cremation, the remains are collected and processed to the consistency of sand or a finer ash. The white or grayish remains, often called cremated remains at this stage, are then sealed in a transparent plastic bag along with an identification tag. The bag weighs about 5 lbs. and will often be returned to the family in a selected urn, which can then be buried, placed in a niche inside a columbarium, taken home or transported for scattering. Additionally, the cremated remains can be separated and placed into multiple urns, keepsakes or even jewelry specifically designed as a final resting place.
Cremation is a respectful, dignified process chosen by many families. However, some faiths discourage or prohibit cremation. If you plan to hold a religious funeral ceremony or have the remains buried in a church cemetery, check in advance to make sure there are no issues.
Service and Ceremony
Choosing CremationThis journey marks a new beginning; now is the most important time to come together and recount the fond memories that tell the story of your loved one. A variety of choices are available to create a loving memorial, bringing together family and friends for a final goodbye. Meaningful ceremonies with personalized memorials can be as unique as the loved one being remembered
When choosing cremation, the ceremony is a way to inform the community of a loved one's passing, tell their story and celebrate their life. A ceremony is most meaningful when it reflects your loved one's relationships, interests, and the moments you shared. Memorializing your loved one when choosing cremation may include one or any combination of the following options.
ConventionalFriends and family gather for a tribute prior to cremation, often with the decedent present, which draws support and allows family and friends to say goodbye.
MemorialThis gathering of friends and family following cremation often features the memorial urn as the ceremony's centerpiece and allows family and friends to recall memories and support one another.
PrivateA small gathering and informal family farewell takes place in a private setting and offers the chance to say goodbye, allowing family and friends to recall memories and support one another.
Direct CremationA direct cremation is when there is no funeral service or memorial service, but instead simply final disposition of the body by the funeral home or memorial society.
A word from Dr. Alan Wolfelt
If you are considering direct cremation, I plead with you to reconsider. Honoring the life and death of the person who died with some sort of ceremony - no matter how brief, how small or how informal - will help your family acknowledge the reality of the death and begin to heal. When no ceremony is held, it is as if the life and death of the person who died had no significance to anyone. Also keep in mind that you may still hold a committal service at the gravesite or crematory should you choose direct cremation.
Think carefully about the many options available to you and your family. Slow down and plan. It is through planning that a meaningful funeral experience is created. And do remember that funeral directors, clergy, celebrants and close friends who have done these things before can all be valuable resources to you. You are not alone!
Cremation Caskets and Containers
The selection of a cremation casket is just as important as the selection of the ceremony and will complement the tribute designed for the one being remembered. Before cremation, during the ceremony, and at the time of cremation, the casket or container is the resting place that gives dignity to your loved one. It may also be where you will see your loved one for the last time.
Cremation CasketCremation caskets are made of wood and available in a wide variety of styles that are suitable for services with a visitation, viewing or a gathering held prior to the cremation. The warmth, beauty and personality wood brings to fine furniture is well suited for the construction of caskets. Depending on your selection, cremation caskets can be personalized to fit your needs with accessories like custom tribute panels or custom embroidered interiors.
Wood Selections for Cremation Caskets
Hardwood caskets include a variety of species: mahogany, walnut, cherry, sycamore, maple, oak, pecan, select hardwood and pine. Families who choose these caskets appreciate the qualities of natural wood. The warmth, beauty and personality it brings to fine furniture is also well suited for the construction of caskets. Some wood caskets are manufactured from solid specie wood, and others are constructed with high-quality veneers.
MahoganyMahogany is used extensively for high-grade furniture and cabinetry. It has a well-earned reputation because of its attractive grain pattern and beautiful natural luster.
WalnutConsidered a wood of beauty, walnut boasts a striking grain color and pattern. Walnut is warm and inviting, dignified and elegant, and engenders a pride of ownership. Having a natural lustrous patina, walnut is also known for its strength and durability.
CherryCherry is one of the most popular hardwoods. Because of its strength and stability, cherry is often used for burial caskets, paneling and gun stocks. Its rich, warm look and creamy, reddish color make it attractive.
MapleMaple is valued for its strength, wear resistance and beauty, making it a popular choice for flooring, especially for heavily trafficked areas such as a ballroom. But it's also a popular material used in making caskets. Maple is evenly textured with a natural luster. While the grain is usually straight, it can also be wavy or curly.
PecanPrized for the delicious pecan nut, pecan trees also produce a strong and heavy hardwood. Pecan is light in color and is often found in the construction of beautiful furniture and architectural paneling.
OakOak is a popular furniture and flooring favorite. This durable wood is used for doors, paneling, home furnishings and caskets. Oak has a prominent grain pattern that can be either tight or coarse, depending on the species.
PinePine has been popular since colonial times. There are nearly 100 species of pine, ranging in color from pale yellow to light brown. Though not technically classified as a “hardwood,” it is considered to be a durable wood, usually straight grained with an even texture.
HardwoodHardwood is a cost effective, yet attractive, solid wood product made from select wood species including poplar and cottonwood.
VeneerVeneering has been a standard in the fine furniture industry for more than 50 years. Veneered wood caskets incorporate quality craftsmanship with premium wood veneers and engineered wood composites that create a look and finish of warmth and beauty that many families are drawn to with solid wood caskets.
In recent years, casket manufacturers have addressed the need for larger-sized caskets. Available in many of the same materials, colors, finishes and designs as in traditional-sized caskets, oversize caskets offer a more comfortable fit for your loved one when required.
Cremation ContainersCremation containers are made from both composite and solid wood components and are fully combustible. These are most appropriate when a private viewing has been scheduled.
Memorial Urns
Memorial Urn ChoicesThe urn or personalized memorial will become the final resting place for your loved one. The selection of the urn typically complements the final placement, whether buried in a cemetery, placed in a niche, or placed as a treasured touchstone in the home or garden. It can also become an ideal medium to facilitate ceremonial scattering. The urn or personal memorial you select will provide dignity, respect and a lasting tribute.
Final Placement ChoicesUrns are available in a wide variety of styles and materials. What's right for you will depend on your choice of final placement as well as personal tastes.
Burial
With the growing number of cremations, more families are choosing to bury the cremated remains of their loved ones as a way to provide a permanent place for future visitation. Many families choose burial or entombment at a nearby cemetery because it allows them to visit the gravesite as often as they like. This helps them continue to feel close to the person who died, while still acknowledging the death. Your funeral director will know which cemeteries are nearby and would best meet your needs. He or she can help you purchase cemetery plots appropriate to your needs.
Monuments and Grave MarkersAlso called headstones, grave markers are used in cemeteries to memorialize and identify the gravesite of the person who has died. To personalize the funeral service, you may want to personalize the grave marker. You can include a poem, a drawing or a short phrase that defines the person who died.
Monuments and grave markers are available in a variety of materials, including natural stone, concrete and bronze. Styles can range from very simple to very ornate, as single markers or companion monuments.
Cemetery PlotsCemetery Burial
Perhaps your family already owns a cemetery plot where the person who has died will be buried. If not, maybe you've noticed a nice local cemetery. Your funeral director will know which cemeteries are nearby and can help you purchase cemetery plots appropriate for your needs.
Traditionally, families have chosen to bury their loved ones in a cemetery. Entombment, which is the placement of the casketed body in an above-ground structure called a mausoleum, also takes place at a cemetery. When a casket is entombed, it is placed in an enclosure (called a crypt), and the front is usually sealed and faced with either marble or granite.
Many families choose burial or entombment at a nearby cemetery because it allows them to visit the gravesite as often as they like. This helps them continue to feel close to the person who died, while still acknowledging the death.
Because so many aspects should be considered when purchasing a cemetery plot, you may want to consider discussing the options in advance. Questions you may want to consider include:
- Does the plot meet my religious requirements?
- Are there any restrictions I need to consider based on the type of monument or burial vault?
- Does the plot include perpetual care and maintenance?
- Are plots available in the same location to provide for burial of the entire family?
Niche
A niche is a recessed compartment typically found in a columbarium or mausoleum to hold an urn. The niche may be open-front, protected by glass (this option allows viewing of the urn), or closed-front, faced with bronze, marble or granite. Generally, the urn containing the cremated remains is placed inside the niche and the front is sealed. Many urn styles can be placed in a niche.
Ceremonial Scattering
Complete or ceremonial scattering is a symbolic release of your loved one back into the world. This can be done in a variety of ways. Biodegradable urns made of unbleached pressed cotton can facilitate underground or water scattering. Some urns are designed for ceremonial scattering and are therefore lightweight, easy to open and safe to hold at multiple angles.
Home Display
You may want to memorialize your loved one in your home after cremation. Many urn styles provide a touching and discreet way to hold the memory of your loved one close. Urns are available in natural stone like marble, a variety of metals such as bronze and copper, and beautiful wood finishes like oak, cherry or mahogany. Cast acrylic and cast bronze statuary art urns are also available in a variety of styles. Products for memorials in the garden or landscape, including wind chimes, birdbaths and sundials, are also an option.
Personalizing and Customizing the Memorial
To add a heartfelt and individual touch, your loved one's personalized life story message can be applied throughout the ceremony or gathering, as well as to the container, memorial urn and keepsakes you choose. Smaller urns, keepsakes, and remembrance jewelry can be given to family members and close friends.
Urn Vaults
The urn or personalized memorial will become the final resting place for your loved one. The selection of the urn typically complements the final placement, whether buried in a cemetery, placed in a niche, or placed as a treasured touchstone in the home or garden. It can also become an ideal medium to facilitate ceremonial scattering. The urn or personal memorial you select will provide dignity, respect and a lasting tribute.
Urn vaults are lined units that enclose the urn when it is placed at the gravesite. They are designed to prevent the weight of soil and heavy equipment from damaging the urn and environmental protection. There are no laws that require the use of urn vaults, but cemeteries often require their use as they prevent the grave from settling and help with general gravesite maintenance and appearance.
Urn vaults are available in a variety of materials, including cultured granite, metal, concrete and composite materials or a combination of materials. Urn vault options also include a large selection of interiors, including smooth or textured finishes as well as fabric choices. Urn vault styles are available that can be personalized to help honor your loved one.
Sharing Memories
Memorial WebsitesWhen someone we love dies, we often feel the need to share their story and the story of our loss with family, friends and our extended communities. A recent trend has been to memorialize loved ones by creating a website that honors their memory and mourns the loss.
The website can be created to house online video tributes and even guestbook memories collected at the funeral from family and friends. Some funeral homes offer this as a service, or you may be technologically savvy enough to build your own. Your imagination is your only limit to sharing memories and honoring your loved one.
Keepsake BooksFriends and relatives often share memories, stories, photos and condolences in guest books, both at the funeral and on the funeral home's website. At the funeral, invite people to write down a memory of the person who died. Ask children if they would like to write a letter or draw a picture for the person. Their “goodbyes” can then be saved for the keepsake book or even placed in the casket alongside the body. Many funeral homes offer keepsake book publishing services that collect and document these important memories.
Video TributesA video tribute is a unique way to personalize a memorial service - giving you and your family the opportunity to pause and reflect on the life of the person you knew and love. These touching montages can consist of music, photos, memorabilia, or newspaper articles that take viewers through the life of the person who has died.
Your video tribute can be played during the funeral service, during a visitation, or at any other time you and your funeral service professional decide upon. Many funeral homes can also post your video tribute to their website so that others can view it at any time. Tributes can also be made into DVDs or saved electronically for your family to keep. Your funeral home may offer this service or can recommend a local vendor who specializes in this area.
Keepsakes & Remembrance Jewelry
Keepsake urns are smaller versions of full size urns and are manufactured to hold a small portion of cremated remains, a lock of hair or ceremonial flowers. Keepsake urns allow you to share your loved one's cremated remains with family and close friends.
Designed to hold a small portion of cremated remains, a lock of hair, flower petals, or earth from the gravesite, keepsake jewelry is a unique and elegant way to hold a loved one close with a fashionable and lasting remembrance. Available in men's and women's styles, consider selecting a matching piece for family members or friends to share a special and lasting bond.
Living Memorial
Batesville's Living Memorial® Program is a unique and special way to honor the memory of a loved one. When you select a Batesville® burial product or an Options® cremation product, arrangements are made for a tree seedling to be planted as a living tribute - at no additional cost to you.
Seedlings are planted in national forests in cooperation with the U.S. Forest Service, The Canadian Forestry Association, The Grand River Conservation Foundation, and other international organizations to re-establish woodlands destroyed by forest fires, blight and other natural disasters. You will receive a special letter that verifies a tree has been planted where the need is greatest.
Guides and Resources
When a loved one dies, grieving family members and friends are often confronted with dozens of decisions about the funeral.
This section is designed to give you an overview of frequently asked questions as well as provide additional support, grief resources and other important information that may help you at this difficult time.
FAQs to Planning a Meaningful Funeral
FAQs to Planning a Meaningful FuneralAs you and your family begin the funeral planning process, a number of questions will surface that you will need further insight on in order to make nformed decisions. Below please find a number of frequently asked questions and clarifications on misconceptions of funerals that may help you as you plan a meaningful funeral to honor the unique life of your loved one.
Why do I need to plan a funeral for my loved one?One of the most important reasons for planning a meaningful funeral is that it helps you and your family focus your thoughts and feelings on something positive. The funeral encourages you to think about the person who died and explore the meaning of their life and the ways in which they touched the lives of others.
The remembering, reflecting and choices that take place in the planning and conducting of the funeral service are often an important part of the process of grief and mourning. And ultimately, this process of contemplation and discovery creates a memorable and moving funeral experience for all who attend.
What makes a funeral meaningful?Meaningful funerals are made up of different parts (music, readings, visitation/reception, eulogy/remembrance memories, symbols, procession, committal service and gathering) that, when combined, make for an incredibly meaningful experience for you, your family and friends. Even among different faiths and cultures, funeral ceremonies throughout North America often include many of the same elements. Your faith or culture may have its own variations on these elements and you should be encouraged to follow them as you see fit.
Who should I turn to for help to plan a meaningful funeral?The funeral home and its staff play a critical role in the planning and conducting of a meaningful funeral. They are the people with the training and expertise you will rely on in the days leading up to the funeral. Their advice, compassion, attention to detail and willingness to personalize the ceremony will greatly influence your funeral experience.
What kind of funeral service should I have?You can choose from a variety of funeral service types and formats. Some people think that funerals must conform to traditional ways, but there is no one right way to have a funeral. Just as grief has many dimensions and is experienced in different ways by different people, funerals are also unique. A funeral should simply be fitting for the person who died and the family and friends who survive. This is an opportunity to be creative and to share an honest expression of your most heartfelt values. There are no rigid rules that need to be followed, but there are guidelines that can help you if you are unsure how you might proceed.
How do I ensure the funeral is personalized?The funeral service you plan should be as special as the life you will be remembering. Here are a few ideas:
- Write a personalized obituary.
- Create a column in the guest book for people to jot down a memory after they sign their name.
- Display personal items and hobby items on a table at the visitation.
- Show a DVD or slide show of the person's life during the funeral.
- Select flowers that were meaningful to the person who died.
- Use a lot of music, especially if music was meaningful to the person who died or means something to your family.
- At the funeral, invite people to write down a memory of the person who died. Appoint someone to gather and read the memories aloud.
- Create a personalized grave marker.
Your family must choose not only the type of funeral service to hold but also what will happen to the body and where it will be laid to rest.
Embalming is how the funeral home temporarily preserves the body of the person who died so it can be viewed by the family. Embalming also allows a number of days to elapse before burial and cremation, thus giving family and friends time to prepare and gather for the funeral.
The body of the person who died is the most important symbol to include in the funeral service. Whether present in an open or unopened casket, the body serves as the emotional focus for mourners and helps them acknowledge and embrace their pain. When a body or cremated remains are buried or scattered, there is a “place” for families to go when they want to feel close to their loved one.
Families who have spent time with the body have said it has helped them come to terms with the death and begin to transition from life before the death to life after the death. Although it can be emotionally painful, time spent with the body is often helpful to many people.
If my loved one is being cremated, what happens during cremation?Cremation is another form of disposition or handling a body after death. However, many people don't know what happens during cremation.
Cremation takes place in a carefully maintained facility known as a crematory or crematorium. The funeral home may or may not have its own crematory on site, but your funeral director can take care of all arrangements either way.
Within the crematory is a special cremation chamber. The body is placed in a cremation container or casket and positioned inside the cremation chamber. Once the container or casket is in the cremation chamber, the door is tightly sealed. The operator then turns on gas jets, which create intense heat that reduces the body to bone fragments. This process takes approximately 2-3 hours.
After the cremation, the remains are collected and processed to the consistency of sand or a finer ash. The white or grayish remains, often called cremated remains at this stage, are then sealed in a transparent plastic bag along with an identification tag. The bag weighs about 5 lbs. and will often be returned to the family in a selected urn, which can then be buried, placed in a niche inside a columbarium, taken home or transported for scattering. Additionally, the cremated remains can be separated and placed into multiple urns, keepsakes or even jewelry specifically designed as a final resting place.
Cremation is a respectful, dignified process chosen by many families. However, some faiths discourage or prohibit cremation. If you plan to hold a religious funeral ceremony or have the remains buried in a church cemetery, check in advance to make sure there are no issues.
Should I involve our children in the funeral?Most of the rituals in our society focus on children. Unfortunately, the funeral ritual, whose purpose is to help mourners begin to heal, is often not seen as a ritual for kids. Too often, children are not included in the funeral because adults want to protect them.
Funerals are painful, but children have the same rights and privileges to participate in them as adults do.
Here are ways to appropriately include children:
- Help explain the funeral to them - Tell children what will happen before, during and after the ceremony. Give as many specifics as they seem interested in hearing.
- If the body will be viewed either at a visitation or at the funeral itself, let the child know this in advance. Explain what the casket and body will look like. If the body is to be cremated, explain what cremation means and what will happen to the cremated remains.
- Find age-appropriate ways for children to take part in the funeral - grieving children feel included when they can share a favorite memory or read a special poem as part of the funeral. Shyer children can participate by lighting a candle or placing something special in the casket (a memento, a drawing, a letter or a photo).
- Understand that children often need to accept their grief in doses, and that outward signs of grief may come and go. It is not unusual, for example, for children to want to roughhouse with their cousins during the visitation or play video games right after the funeral. Respect the child's need to be a child during this extraordinarily difficult time.
Glossary of Funeral Terms
Glossary of Funeral TermsAs the planning begins, you may be introduced to new words and terms that are associated with the funeral planning process. We have provided a quick glossary for your reference.
- Arrangement conference - The meeting with the funeral director in which you discuss your wishes for the funeral and the disposition of the body
- Burial - Also called interment, earth burial at a cemetery is the most traditional method for final disposition of the body
- Celebrant - A person who provides personalized services to a family to create a meaningful ceremony or ritual during a life transition
- Columbarium - An above-ground structure for final disposition of cremated remains
- Committal service - A brief graveside ceremony held with the casket or urn present before it is lowered into the ground
- Cremation - A form of disposition that involves reducing the body through intense heat to cremated remains
- Crypt - An above ground burial site in a mausoleum
- Direct cremation - Cremation without a funeral or memorial service
- Embalming - A method of preserving the body for a number of days following the death, allowing the family to view the body and hold the funeral service on a day that is convenient for out-of-town friends and relatives
- Entombment - Placement of the casket in an above-ground structure called a mausoleum
- Funeral - The ceremony that honors the end of a person's life
- Grave liner - An unlined outer burial container
- Honorarium - The fee typically paid to a clergyperson or celebrant for officiating the funeral ceremony and to musicians or soloists for their contributions
- Mausoleum - A small building in a cemetery that is like a burial plot above the ground
- Niche - One of a number of recesses in the wall of a columbarium where the urn containing cremated remains is placed
- Obituary - A notice in the newspaper that announces the death to the community, summarizes the person's life and invites readers to attend the funeral and/or make memorial contributions in the name of the person who died
- Pallbearers - The people who carry the casket from the ceremony to the hearse and from the hearse to the gravesite
- Urn - A small vase-like container specially designed for holding cremated remains
- Vault - A concrete or metal container into which the casket is placed before burial at a cemetery
- Visitation - A scheduled time for family and friends to see the person who died, perhaps for the final time
Pre-Planning
PreplanningThe Advantages of Planning Ahead
The idea behind planning ahead is simple. One day, a great deal of vital information about you or a loved one will be needed by your family and anyone whose responsibility it is to assist them. Those who plan ahead can be assured that, not only will their personal wishes be fulfilled, but other unnecessary difficulties will be avoided.
Both you and your loved ones can benefit when funeral arrangements are made well ahead of need. It can be beneficial to include your immediate family in those plans, ensuring those left behind are aware of your wishes and able to plan a meaningful funeral that will help them begin their mourning. By discussing plans in advance, you can take all the time necessary to make decisions about cremation or burial, type of ceremony and other funeral elements.
You may want to discuss your thoughts and decisions with your family and a funeral service professional. The Meaningful Funerals Companion Guide can be used to capture your wishes and biographical information in advance. Upon completion, simply store it in a safe place with your other important documents.
Recommended Reading
Recommended ReadingMost of us are not prepared to plan and carry out a funeral ceremony for the death of someone we love. And so much of the information available on this critically important subject fails to focus on what is most important: having a personalized, meaningful funeral that helps families and friends begin mourning after the death of someone they love.
In addition to the information contained in this website, a list of recommended reading is provided below to help you understand your choices and allow you to plan the most meaningful funeral for your loved one.
Dr. Alan Wolfelt- Wolfelt, Alan, Creating Meaningful Funeral Ceremonies: A Guide for Caregivers, Fort Collins, Colorado: Companion Press, 2011
- Wolfelt, Alan,Creating Meaningful Funeral Ceremonies: A Guide for Families, Fort Collins, Colorado: Companion Press, 2011
- Wolfelt, Alan, The Journey through Grief: Reflections on Healing, Fort Collins, Colorado: Companion Press, 1996
- Wolfelt, Alan, Understanding Your Grief: Ten Essential Touchstones for Finding Hope and Healing Your Heart, Fort Collins, Colorado: Companion Press, 2003
Other Authors
- Fulghum, Robert, From Beginning to End: The Rituals of Our Lives, New York: Villard Books, 1995
- Long, Thomas G., Accompany Them With Singing: The Christian Funeral, Louisville, Kentucky: Westminster John Knox Press, 2009
- Metrick, S.B., Crossing the Bridge: Creating Ceremonies for Grieving and Healing from Life#8217;s Losses, Berkeley: Celestial Arts, 1994
- Noel, Brook and Pamela Blair, Ph.D., I Wasn#8217;t Ready to Say Goodbye: Surviving, Coping and Healing After the Sudden Death of a Loved One, Milwaukee: Champion Press, 2008
- York, Sarah, Remembering Well: Rituals for Celebrating Life and Mourning Death, San Francisco: Jossey Bass, 2000
Recommended Links
Someone you loved has died. You are beginning a journey that is often frightening, painful and sometimes lonely. No words, written or spoken, can take away the pain you now feel.
The following organizations are additional sources of information, education and referral that may bring you some comfort and encouragement as you make a commitment to help yourself heal.
Funerals and Related Matters - National Organizations and Support Resources
- International Cemetery, Cremation & Funeral Association - http://www.iccfa.com
- Cremation Association of North America - info@cremationsassociations.org
- International Order of the Golden Rule - info@ogr.org
- National Funeral Directors Association - http://www.nfda.org
- Selected Independent Funeral Homes - http://www.selectedfuneralhomes.org
- Funeral Service Association of Canada - http://www.fsac.ca
National Self-Help Organizations and Support Groups
- AARP, Widowed Person's Services - http://www.aarp.org
Independent branches of this organization can be found by searching online for Widowed Persons Services and the name of your town and state. - American Association of Suicidology - http://suicidology.org
Information and resources; referrals to suicide survivor groups - Center for Loss and Life Transition - http://centerforloss.com
Resources, education and training, and referral for bereaved families; provides certificate program in Death and Grief studies for bereavement professionals - The Compassionate Friends - http://www.compassionatefriends.org
Information and resources for bereaved families who have experienced the death of a child - The Dougy Center - http://www.dougy.org
Information, education, referral and support for children and families; publishes a national directory of support programs for bereaved children - Share - http://nationalshare.org
Pregnancy and infant loss support - Mothers Against Drunk Driving (MADD) - http://www.MADD.org
Education, resources and advocacy for bereaved families - Parents of Murdered Children, Inc - http://www.pomc.com
Information, resources and support for bereaved families - National Hospice and Palliative Care - http://www.nhpco.org
- National Institute of Mental Health Public Inquiries - http://www.nimh.nih.gov
Education and publications for families and professionals
Pre-Planning
Life Choices
Most of us plan ahead in life. We plan for our wedding, our children's education, family vacations, and other significant expected life events. We also plan for the unexpected events of life by purchasing home, auto and medical insurance.Understanding the benefits of pre-planning has prompted many to take the step to pre-plan their own arrangements.
Please call us at 660-886-5700 to set up an appointment to discuss pre-planning with a caring professional.
Why Pre-Plan?
Peace of MindMany who have undergone the emotional strain of arranging a funeral within hours of losing a loved one have made the choice to pre-plan their own funeral. Doing so lifts the burden from their loved ones by relieving decision-making pressure at a time of grief and emotional stress.
Personal Choice
Funeral arrangements are a deeply personal choice. Pre-planning provides you with the time needed to make practical, detailed decisions that reflect your standards, lifestyle, taste and budget. And we assure you and your family that the choices you make will be carried out as planned.
Lower Costs
When you finalize your plan, we can advise you of the total cost. You do not have to set aside funds for your plan, but doing so protects you against escalating funeral costs. By locking in today's funeral costs and ensuring that the necessary funds are set aside, you help relieve yourself of unnecessary future worry and your survivors of an unexpected expense.
Immediate Arrangements
In Time of Need
We understand that making the many decisions which come at a time of loss can be difficult. We offer our support by providing you with options as you consider making immediate arrangements.
Please call us at 660-886-5700 to make arrangements in person with a caring, professional Funeral Director.
Grief Support
Welcome to the Griefwords Online Library
Brought to you by the Center for Loss and Life Transition - Alan Wolfelt, Ph.D., Director
Helping Others with Grief
A friend has experienced the death of someone loved. How can you help? The following articles provide many practical suggestions for helping others with grief:
Helping a Friend in Grief
Helping a Grandparent Who is Grieving
Helping a Grieving Friend in the Workplace
Helping a Suicide Survivor Heal
Helping Your Family When a Member is Dying
Helping Yourself with Grief
Someone you love has died. You are now faced with the difficult, but important, need to mourn. Mourning is the open expression of your thoughts and feelings regarding the death and the person who died. It is an essential part of healing. The following articles provide many practical suggestions to help you move toward healing in your unique grief journey.
Mustering the Courage to Mourn
Love and Grief:
In Communion and Greater Than the Sum of Their Parts
Helping Yourself Heal When Someone Loved Dies
Will I Befriend My Feelings Or Will I Deny, Repress, Or Inhibit Them?
Helping Yourself Heal When Your Spouse Dies
Helping Yourself Heal When Your Child Dies
Helping Yourself Heal When Your Parent Dies
Helping Yourself Heal When a Baby Dies
Helping Yourself Heal During the Holiday Season
For and About Grieving Children and Teenagers
Children and teenagers have special needs following the death of a friend or family member. The following articles provide wonderful insight in helping children and teens understand and express their grief.
How to Talk to the Children and Teens in Your Life About the Newtown, CT Tragedy
Helping Infants and Toddlers Cope with Grief
Helping Children Cope With Grief
Helping Children with Funerals
Helping Teenagers Cope with Grief
Recommended Links
Someone you loved has died. You are beginning a journey that is often frightening, painful and sometimes lonely. No words, written or spoken, can take away the pain you now feel.
The following organizations are additional sources of information, education and referral that may bring you some comfort and encouragement as you make a commitment to help yourself heal.
Funerals and Related Matters - National Organizations and Support Resources
- International Cemetery, Cremation & Funeral Association - http://www.iccfa.com
- Cremation Association of North America - info@cremationsassociations.org
- International Order of the Golden Rule - info@ogr.org
- National Funeral Directors Association - http://www.nfda.org
- Selected Independent Funeral Homes - http://www.selectedfuneralhomes.org
- Funeral Service Association of Canada - http://www.fsac.ca
National Self-Help Organizations and Support Groups
- AARP, Widowed Person's Services - http://www.aarp.org
Independent branches of this organization can be found by searching online for Widowed Persons Services and the name of your town and state. - American Association of Suicidology - http://suicidology.org
Information and resources; referrals to suicide survivor groups - Center for Loss and Life Transition - http://centerforloss.com
Resources, education and training, and referral for bereaved families; provides certificate program in Death and Grief studies for bereavement professionals - The Compassionate Friends - http://www.compassionatefriends.org
Information and resources for bereaved families who have experienced the death of a child - The Dougy Center - http://www.dougy.org
Information, education, referral and support for children and families; publishes a national directory of support programs for bereaved children - Share - http://nationalshare.org
Pregnancy and infant loss support - Mothers Against Drunk Driving (MADD) - http://www.MADD.org
Education, resources and advocacy for bereaved families - Parents of Murdered Children, Inc - http://www.pomc.com
Information, resources and support for bereaved families - National Hospice and Palliative Care - http://www.nhpco.org
- National Institute of Mental Health Public Inquiries - http://www.nimh.nih.gov
Education and publications for families and professionals
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